Myth 1: It’s Lonely At The Top
Truth: If it’s lonely at the top, you’re not doing it right.
What are the attributes of a true leader?
- Personable – love to be close to people
- Generate high morale on their team
- Empower others to come along with them
- Place great value on others
- Engage those around them
- Lead by example
Myth 2: Stubborn People Are Toughest To Lead
Truth: The toughest person to lead is always yourself.
Truth: You must first lead yourself well in order to lead others well.
If you were to reflect on your leadership of others, you may find you have been viewed as:
What created this behavior?
What did you learn from it?
Lesson: We should be good followers first.
- No one is an island
- Everyone follows someone
- Following the right people keeps us on an even keel
- Everyone could potentially have a voice in your life
- Not everyone’s voice is valid for your life. Analyze and dissect
- Your voice is the most important voice you hear
Who inspires you? Encourages? Motivates?
- They are your leaders.
Who do you inspire? Encourage? Motivate?
- Those are the ones you lead.
Myth 3: Leaders Are Born, Not Made
Truth: Leadership is a learned skill set, not a talent given.
In my experience:
- Out of over twenty years of listening to leaders speak, none of them stated that they were given the gift of leadership at birth.
- All true leaders are humble, knowing that anyone can learn what they learned and do what they do.
- Some people are born with the desire to lead, but they still have to learn the skill set.
- Conversely, many great leaders have stated that they were not born with the desire to lead, but became a leader by learning the skill set.
- Some leaders became leaders because they were forced into a situation where they had to.
- What is the secret then?
It is essential that we learn, but just as essential that we apply what we learn.
Myth 4: You Must Have a Title in Order to Lead
Truth: Leadership is influence. Anyone that you influence, you are leading.
Right now… where you are… at this very moment… you lead someone.
- Parents (yes, it’s true!)
- Church family
Those who lead well where they are grow into those leadership positions with the official title.
- Leadership is a daily process.
- You never outgrow leadership.
- Leadership has goals, but no final destination.
- Leadership has no days off.
- You must lead well in the small things before you will ever lead well in the bigger things.
I will end with 2 high quality quotes from famous leaders:
If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more, and become more, you are a leader. – John Quincy Adams
If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way. – Napoleon Hill
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