Breaking the Top Four Leadership Myths

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Myth 1: It’s Lonely At The Top

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Truth: If it’s lonely at the top, you’re not doing it right.

What are the attributes of a true leader?

  • Personable – love to be close to people
  • Generate high morale on their team
  • Empower others to come along with them
  • Place great value on others
  • Inspiring
  • Engage those around them
  • Lead by example
  • Visionary


Myth 2: Stubborn People Are Toughest To Lead

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Truth: The toughest person to lead is always yourself.

Truth: You must first lead yourself well in order to lead others well.

If you were to reflect on your leadership of others, you may find you have been viewed as:

  • Prideful
  • Unrealistic
  • Rigid
  • Autocratic
  • Timid

What created this behavior?

What did you learn from it?

Lesson: We should be good followers first.

  • No one is an island
  • Everyone follows someone
  • Following the right people keeps us on an even keel
  • Everyone could potentially have a voice in your life
  • Not everyone’s voice is valid for your life. Analyze and dissect
  • Your voice is the most important voice you hear

Who inspires you? Encourages? Motivates?

  • They are your leaders.

Who do you inspire? Encourage? Motivate?

  • Those are the ones you lead.


Myth 3: Leaders Are Born, Not Made

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Truth: Leadership is a learned skill set, not a talent given.

In my experience:

  • Out of over twenty years of listening to leaders speak, none of them stated that they were given the gift of leadership at birth.
  • All true leaders are humble, knowing that anyone can learn what they learned and do what they do.
  • Some people are born with the desire to lead, but they still have to learn the skill set.
  • Conversely, many great leaders have stated that they were not born with the desire to lead, but became a leader by learning the skill set.
  • Some leaders became leaders because they were forced into a situation where they had to.
  • What is the secret then?
    • Training
    • Application

It is essential that we learn, but just as essential that we apply what we learn.


Myth 4: You Must Have a Title in Order to Lead

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Truth: Leadership is influence. Anyone that you influence, you are leading.


Right now… where you are… at this very moment… you lead someone.

  • Children
  • Siblings
  • Parents (yes, it’s true!)
  • Friends
  • Co-workers
  • Church family


Those who lead well where they are grow into those leadership positions with the official title.

  • Leadership is a daily process.
  • You never outgrow leadership.
  • Leadership has goals, but no final destination.
  • Leadership has no days off.
  • You must lead well in the small things before you will ever lead well in the bigger things.


I will end with 2 high quality quotes from famous leaders:

If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more, and become more, you are a leader. – John Quincy Adams

If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way. – Napoleon Hill

Some of my projects:

Pinnacle Leadership Coaching | Jacked Up On Quotes
ExemplarOne | Team Xtreme | truth.passion.excellence

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